I admit it. In the past, I've made a comment or two (or three or four) to my husband that if I were caught on camera, one would think I wasn't very nice. Yes, I know you've been there too, because far too many of us gripe to our girlfriends when the topic of husbands comes up.
Honestly, it's emasculating. Saying it jokingly is one thing, but when you respond with this comment because your husband forgot to pick up the milk on the way home, I can assure you that he'll never ever offer to pick up the milk again.
Attacking someone with words is a sideways way of expressing your feelings. If you feel frustrated that he forgot "the one thing" you asked him to do, instead try this:
When your husband comes home and shares with you how a situation he handled at work backfired on him, he's looking for compassion and support, not some devaluing Simon Cowell-esque stab critique from you.
You're allowed to disagree with how your husband handles things, but if he didn't ask for your opinion, then pipe down. However, if he did ask for your opinion, then he's looking to problem solve, not to be treated like a failure or a joke.
Look, in a perfect world, our husbands would read our minds perfectly every time. But that's not reality. If you expect something from your husband and didn't articulate it, own your assumptions rather than spew your disappointment in his general direction.
Your husband offered to help you straighten up the kids' rooms while you go to the market. You come home to see that his definition of "straightening up" is him pulling the blankets to the top of the beds,
Yikes. We all know this one: Hubby wants some sexy time and you'd rather stick needles in your eyes after the vomit-inducing, child-screaming, stressful workday you've just had. But guess what? You're allowed to feel that way, and you're allowed to select the pause button in response.
Ouch! Ladies, this is so not cool to say to anyone (pretty much ever). How old are you? Kids say this when they feel angry, hurt, sad, disappointed, etc. Own your feelings, and communicate them — like an adult.