Common But Harmful Mistakes You're Making As A Parent

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 I think it's important to keep in mind that our children were made to be loved, not worshipped. So when we treat them like the center of the universe, we create a false idol, turning a good into an ultimate.

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Worshipping our children

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One thing I often hear from professionals who work with children (counselors, teachers, etc.) is that parents today don't want to hear anything negative about their kids. When concerns are raised, even concerns voiced out of love, the knee-jerk reaction is often to attack the messenger.

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Believing our children are perfect

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We, parents, take great pride in our children. When they succeed, it makes us happier than if we'd done it ourselves. But if we're overly involved and invested in their lives, it gets hard to see where they end and we begin.

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Living vicariously through our children

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Seeking to be our child's BFF can only lead to permissiveness and choices made out of desperation because we fear losing their approval. That's not love on our end; that's need.

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Wanting to be our child's BFF

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Every parent has a competitive streak. All it takes to stir this monster in us is another parent giving his or her child a leg up at our child's expense.

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Engaging in competitive parenting

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Raising small children can be hard, monotonous work. At times it's so physically and emotionally exhausting we wish they were older to make our life easier

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Missing the wonder of childhood

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As parents, we harbor dreams for our children. They start when we get pregnant, before the gender's even known

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Raising the children we want, not the children we have

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Sometimes when my kids ask a question, they'll say, "Please answer in one sentence." They know me well, for I'm always trying to squeeze life lessons into teachable moments

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Forgetting our actions speak louder than words

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No matter how much we disagree with someone's parenting style, it's not our place to judge. Nobody in this world is "all good" or "all bad"; we're all a mix of both, a community of sinners struggling with different demons.

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Judging other parents... and their kids

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If there's one thing I hope to get right in my children, it's their CORE. Character, moral fiber, an inner compass… these things lay the foundation for a happy, healthy future. They matter more than any report card or trophy ever will.

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Underestimating character

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