Acknowledge the past, present, and future in relationships for effective communication. The past shapes the present and influences the future.
Avoid overtalk in communication. Take turns speaking by using a shared item, listen actively, and summarize before switching roles.
As relationships mature, both partners will experience triggers from each other that activate past traumas. The closer people get to each other, the more unresolved or painful experiences from the past will work their way to the surface.
Close physical proximity and full attention are essential for successful communication. Physical distance may trigger comparisons and unresolved feelings projection.
Clarify meanings to avoid communication pitfalls. Background factors like culture, gender, age, education, and past experiences shape interpretations.
Non-verbal cues shape intimate communication. Facial expressions, body language, tone, and rhythm convey more than words alone.
It may be hard on the ego to realize that what is being said is no longer of interest, but the alternative is to talk to someone who is not there.
Deepen communication by empathizing with each other's experiences. Imagine feeling the impact of your actions as if it were directed at yourself.
Teasing okay if mutually accepted, sarcasm often scornful. Insecurity, discomfort, or fear drive it. Tolerated if funny or apologetic, but wears thin.