Signs of Being Raised by a Highly Critical Parent

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You have a hard time trusting yourself

Constant criticism early in life can leave the impression that what you think, feel, or do is somehow wrong. As a result, you’re often plagued by self-doubt.

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You’re hesitant to take on new challenges

Self-doubt and low confidence make it hard to trust your ability to rise to the occasion for a new endeavor. You often wind up playing it safe and choosing not to try rather than risk failing

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It’s hard to bounce back from mistakes

To err is human, but when the error is yours it feels like confirmation of your shortcomings. Even a simple mistake can remind you of all your past failings as your sense of self-worth plummets

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You tend to be a perfectionist

Your efforts to be perfect aren’t driven by pride in your work but by the fear of messing up and revealing your inadequacy

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You constantly apologize

Your mom or dad was quick to make you feel that you were in the wrong, so it’s easy to assume that others will see you in the same light. When your friends tell you that you don’t have to say “sorry” all the time, you might even apologize for apologizing

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You often feel defensive

Understand the defensive reactions that arise when a friend hurts you. Learn to navigate these responses and improve communication in your relationships.

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You rarely take compliments to heart

Recognize and challenge your tendency to deflect compliments and self-criticize. Embrace and accept positive feedback, allowing yourself to experience the joy of receiving compliments and acknowledging your own worth.

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You experience a lot of social anxiety

Overcome the fear of judgment and criticism by recognizing that your self-worth isn't determined by others' opinions. Challenge negative thoughts, embrace vulnerability, and focus on self-acceptance to overcome social anxiety and fear of embarrassment.

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You have a harsh inner critic

The voice of your critical parent gets internalized, and now their criticism comes from within. If you listen closely, you might hear echoes of your parent’s voice in your own self-talk.

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You’re prone to depression

Break the cycle of self-criticism and low mood by practicing self-compassion. Recognize that everyone experiences ups and downs, and it's okay to seek support. Challenge negative thoughts, practice self-care, and seek professional help if needed to improve your well-being and break free from self-loathing.

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You tend to be critical of others

Break the cycle of criticism by cultivating empathy and understanding towards others. Recognize that everyone has their flaws and struggles, just like you.

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