Research shows that active, responsive listening is essential for well-functioning intimate relationships. Responsive listening requires you to be actively interested in and participating in the conversation.
It is important to respect your partner’s point of view instead of making judgments based upon your own perspective.
For instance, if you are annoyed that they are venting to you about a bad day at work, think about how you might feel if you had a conflict with a coworker and wanted to talk to someone about it.
If you notice your partner is going through a challenging situation, anticipate what they might need from you, and provide it without their asking.
When life gets difficult, be sure to communicate to your partner that you two are a team or a united front. Express that you want to remain supportive of each other.
When your partner accomplishes something or is facing a challenge, be sure to let them know you are rooting for them.
Take time to sit down and talk about your partner’s hopes, dreams, and goals for the future. This shows your partner that you support them in growing and becoming the best version of themselves.
The occasional late day spent at the office or canceling of dinner plans because they are too tired should not lead to guilt or a fight.
It is easy to ask your partner about their day and then tune them out, so you forget important details later. This may make them feel a lack of support.