In my very early 20s, I was in a long-distance, uhhh, situation-ship that lasted for about 2 years. Now that I’m in my late 20s, I know there was so much about that relationship that I wish I could have done differently.
Loving someone who is physically far requires more communication compared to non-long-distance relationships. Mostly because, well, that’s your main way of interaction.
But if you’ve decided to end the relationship, you need to let them know that you’re going to have The Talk. It’s one of the things I regret when I essentially ghosted my past significant other.
Breaking up over text feels blindsiding to the receiver and so impersonal.
Inversely, if you think you need to get out of that relationship immediately, then do so. It’s case-to-case at best.
Until the conversation happens or is underway, you wouldn’t really fully know the other person’s reactions. They could get angry, they could be frustrated, they could lash out, they could just shut down, or they could be completely calm about it.
The word “time” here is so representative of all the things we can address in long-distance relationships. It takes time to get closer, it takes time to go closer. To bridge the physical and emotional distance.
If this relationship didn’t start off long-distance but you just couldn’t carry the weight of it or couldn’t cope when it became one, you’re allowed to be sad over that as well. You didn’t fail as a person just because your relationship did.
– Deleting or archiving messaging threads. – Unfriending, blocking, or muting them on social media. – Deleting or archiving photos of each other. – Not asking about them to mutual friends
t’s good to be reminded that we are loved, appreciated, and wanted. So lean, it’s okay to rest your head against the softest places and people you know