Perception shapes reality. Misunderstandings arise from subjective beliefs. Communication and effort can mend relationships and bridge differences.
Perception-checking with feedback helps resolve misunderstandings. Outcome may differ from expectations. Example: Jake and Sam's experience.
Take time to cool down during conflicts. Allow yourself to reset through physical exercise, sleep, or a timeout. Avoid repetitive arguments and reach a resolution.
Sometimes silence can be beneficial for friendships. In Sue Grafton's character Kinsey Millhone, not talking after an argument provides insights and allows for reflection.
Sometimes it's necessary to let go of a specific battle or even a whole friendship. Make this decision calmly and after cooling off, without ending things in the heat of an argument.
Let go of hurt and resentment after a fight, whether you stay friends or not. Learn from the experience and use it to grow in future interactions.
Don't seek revenge if someone disappoints you. Surround yourself with supportive friends and move forward, leaving the hurt behind.
Seek advice from a trusted person instead of spreading gossip. Turning mutual friends against each other worsens the situation. Respectful communication is key to resolving conflicts.
Most friends don’t set out to hurt us. When we are hurt by a friend, the pain is usually accidental and the person who caused it feels sorry—even if they cannot bring themselves to apologize.
Sam and Jake had a chance encounter at a party where Jake sincerely apologized for his behavior, expressing regret and acknowledging his lack of thoughtfulness.