It is important to speak up for yourself and to express yourself verbally. Words are a tool for sticking up for yourself and should be utilized when you want to change the dynamic of your relationship.
Change is hard. At some point, you may find yourself unconsciously fighting yourself to slip back into your previous thought and action patterns so you don’t get out of the comfort of the familiar.
Although it’s immensely scary to stand up for yourself and challenge existing norms, breaking out of a toxic box is a good thing to do.
Building your sense of self-worth and finding an identity outside the relationship is important. When your sense of self worth isn’t tied to the relationship,
You may tend to get overly emotional as you begin to stand up for yourself. This influx of intense emotions may cause you to lash out or withdraw, neither of which are beneficial to you. I
Enunciate when speaking. And use words that would pass your message across. Let go of assumptions. Come out clear about your intentions.
Although selflessness is a trait that’s often praised, being selfless without regard for yourself leads to being taken advantage of. Prioritize yourself. Ensure that the feeling is mutual.
Setting boundaries on what you consider unbendable rules and stick to them. Practice saying NO and consider putting yourself first,self-worth though not in a selfish manner.
It’s easy to fall back into the habit of bending over for someone else, and that’s okay as long as you don’t repeat it.
Genuinely listen and find out where the other person is coming from so you can have leverage. You need to be very careful to listen to what you are hearing back from the person with whom you are talking.